I spend a lot of
time in January coaching my clients on New Year’s resolutions, mostly trying to
talk people out of pursuing them. There are a whole lot of cockamamie schemes
floating around in people’s heads at New Year’s and even more disappointments
in the adrenaline nosedive that follows.
Whether high or
low, the holidays tend to bring catharsis. All bets are off. Caution is thrown
to the wind, and optimism runs high about our ability to make abrupt changes in
the wake of that catharsis. We ride up and over New Year’s Eve only to find ourselves
crashing back to earth on the other side. Distractions creep in, and resolve
withers.
Momentum is a
lovely thing—until it runs out—but as a personal trainer who gravitates toward
slackers and misfits (of which I am most definitely one), I love it when the momentum runs out. It
makes me sit up and pay attention. It’s a turning point where all the fun
begins, the place where we have the most potential to have a lasting impact on
our lives and bodies.
You made a resolution.
You tried. It was no fun, so you gave up and found yourself back at square one.
Par for the course. At that point, do you sit around waiting for the next big
event to spur you on for a week or two, before giving up again? Or do you figure
out what you can legitimately do, forevermore, until the end of your ever-loving
days to make your body feel better? If you can sort that out, your whole
trajectory changes.
Productive habits
that can endure the fallow, aimless months of February and March, October and
November, are the ones that end up being transformative, but the only way for
them to be transformative is for them to stick. And the only way for them to
stick is if you’re actually enjoying them, at least a little bit.
Your resolution
didn’t work for one of two reasons: either it was too extreme, or it didn’t
have anything to do with your life and the passions that drive you. In other words,
it messed with your vibe rather than feeding it. If you don’t like your new routine, rest assured that
you’re going to quit it. Thems the facts.
Any master plan
you have to improve your body or mind needs to be steeped in things you love to do that make you feel better in
the here and now. If you hate cooking, why would you resolve to cook more
often? Make smarter choices at restaurants instead. If you hate getting up in
the morning to work out, don’t bother. There are countless moments filled with
countless ways every day to have a positive impact on your body. Walks can be
taken. Push-ups can be done in living rooms nationwide. Going to bed an hour
earlier instead of snacking mindlessly in front of the TV can happen—if you
bother to notice that it reliably makes you feel lighter and more alert.
Your resolution
shouldn’t be about finding tedious hours to exercise or eating like a bird. It
should be about filling in the cracks of your life with active, healthy,
invigorating things that you happen to love, whenever and wherever you can—no
matter how small they might seem. Over the course of a lifetime, those choices
make all the difference. If you don’t fill in the cracks with stuff that feeds
you, they will fill up with whatever byproducts of living happen to seep in
while you’re busy just trying to get by.
Transformation
comes from a million little changes, not one big one. It doesn’t come from boot
camp at 5 a.m. on January 1st. It comes from doing a few small,
simple things that make you feel better and stronger on January 26th,
27th, and beyond. And when those few things become easy and
habitual, it comes from adding a few more.
So when
willpower and momentum collapse in on themselves this year, have a look around
from your uncomfortable comfort zone. See what you can do easily, that will
make you feel physically better, and go do it. Sign up for a pottery class. Set
up a walking date. Volunteer. Have a piece of fruit. Get some fresh air.
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